The Sunday Parenting Party - Taking Playdates Outdoors
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Recently, despite the cold weather we have been having more playdates outdoors than indoors. I really enjoy outdoor playdates and I thought I'd explain why I think they can make for a better meet up.
1.Neutral Ground
I often find when I'm at other people's houses on playdates I tell Goblin off for things I wouldn't do at home. The trouble is that different families have different rules. When you are at someone elses house you need to respect their rules, but often they aren't obvious. There are unwritten rules and it can be a minefield working out what is, and isn't acceptable. Even minor things like allowing your child to walk around while eating a snack can turn out to be a major faux pas. Or the family may divide their toys into outdoor and indoor toys. If you don't operate that system in your own home trying to explain that to your toddler or preschooler can be quite stressful.
If you have your playdate in a park or wood it means you are on neutral ground. Neither you, now your parenting friends need to play by each others rules. This takes some of the pressure off you and your children.
2. Less Squabbling over sharing
Even on better play dates, if there are toys involved there will be squabbling. Even the nicest of kids will have the occasional issue over sharing a much loved item, and some kids just have to have what ever their friend is playing with. This can be difficult if you are hosting a play date or if you are visiting. Hosting parents feel they need to encourage their children to give up toys that are rightfully theirs, while visiting parents feel guilty that their child is trying to play with something that isn't theirs and is upsetting the host child.
With outdoor playdates the focus tends to be on running around rather than playing with toys, so there tend to be less squabbles. The toys kids do find are natures own - sticks, leaves, moss and stones - there are usually lots of these so no need to fight over who gets what.
The only time I find the 'less squabbles' thing doesn't hold true is when one of the parents breaks the 'rules' and brings a toy without telling the other parents. So their kid is the only one with a ball or a bucket etc.
3. Great Exercise
When kids get outdoors they tend to burn off more energy by running around and climbing. Not only is this great for their health, but they tend to be less likely to throw tantrums when they can reales any stress by running and playing.
I have also found that I get a chance to do some exercise, running after Goblin or just going for a really long walk. Often this is the only exercise I'll get in a week so I relish it.
4. Adults can join the fun
Lets face it, a lot of the activities that toddlers and preschoolers choose to do indoors aren't exactly thrilling. I get bored of playing cars and trains quite quickly. But outdoors walking through the woods or climbing trees or swinging on a swing, that will never bore me.
5. Space to chat
Have you ever been on a playdate where you really want to have a good old moan to your mummy chums about how your week's been, how terrible your kid was, or how miserable you are? But you can't right, because your child is playing directly infront of you and it would be a really inappropriate conversation for your child to hear? Well outdoor playdates give you that opportunity because your kids can be much much further away and you can still keep an eye on them but they can't hear what you are talking about.
If you think that's selfish look at it this way, your child is also benefiting from having space from you that they probably don't get that often. It gives them a bit of autonomy and freedom.
Such brilliant ideas and reasons, I'd never thought about why I enjoy them before but they are always so much more fun that being at someone's house. I especially like the joining in reason!
So true and when you have two children getting out and about is the same. It's much easier for the two to get along when outside than inside and eases tension as well as refreshes us all.
It is so true that being outdoors allows more time to chat with my mummy friend. It is actually my number one reason. It's not selfish at all, it is compromise...they get to go and have fun at the park and I get to chat with a friend without a child wrapped around my leg, incessantly whining about something :)
Great post! I always loved outdoor playdates when my kids were little, too. Different rules indoors can really be a hassle. It's amazing how many problems are solved simply by taking the kids outdoors. :)
I couldn't agree more about play dates outside. It just goes to show how important it is to get out just by admitting to ourselves that we parent differently when we're outside! Thanks for the feature by the way.
I love these tips. I've recently been making more mom friends (the post I'm linking up today) but have been hesitant to make play dates at my house. I don't know why I didn't think of outdoor play dates before! Oh and thanks for featuring our post from last week!
Thanks for hosting and for your post. I have to say I am a much nicer mummy in a park than I am at home - it does us both good :-) Alice @MumsMakeLists
I'm kinda new to playdates, but the sharing thing is more difficult when you are at a person's house. I find that the kids are much more territorial. I saw that Lisa Nolan had a good idea about this. I wouldn't be able to find the post to put a link here, but the gist of it was that you have your child pick out toys to share and you talk about how they are going to be shared during the playdate ahead of time. I thought that was a great idea.
Thank ya mama for sharing this with us at Eco-Kids Tuesday! Please come link up with us again today! http://likemamalikedaughter.blogspot.com/2013/02/fairy-finders-eco-kids-tuesday.html
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Such great advice & I hope that more parents realise that it is all so much less stressful outdoors. Thanks for linking up & all the support. Kierna
ReplyDeleteSuch brilliant ideas and reasons, I'd never thought about why I enjoy them before but they are always so much more fun that being at someone's house. I especially like the joining in reason!
ReplyDeleteSo true and when you have two children getting out and about is the same. It's much easier for the two to get along when outside than inside and eases tension as well as refreshes us all.
ReplyDeleteIt is so true that being outdoors allows more time to chat with my mummy friend. It is actually my number one reason. It's not selfish at all, it is compromise...they get to go and have fun at the park and I get to chat with a friend without a child wrapped around my leg, incessantly whining about something :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I always loved outdoor playdates when my kids were little, too. Different rules indoors can really be a hassle. It's amazing how many problems are solved simply by taking the kids outdoors. :)
ReplyDeleteWell you know I am sold on all your reasons! Lovely photos too, linking back to you with Country Kids this week.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more about play dates outside. It just goes to show how important it is to get out just by admitting to ourselves that we parent differently when we're outside! Thanks for the feature by the way.
ReplyDeleteReally useful tips and a reminder that we all parent differently and have different boundaries etc. There is no 'right' way.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the feature! :)
ReplyDeleteI love these tips. I've recently been making more mom friends (the post I'm linking up today) but have been hesitant to make play dates at my house. I don't know why I didn't think of outdoor play dates before! Oh and thanks for featuring our post from last week!
ReplyDeleteThanks for hosting and for your post. I have to say I am a much nicer mummy in a park than I am at home - it does us both good :-) Alice @MumsMakeLists
ReplyDeleteI love the idea of the outdoor playdate, so much easier!
ReplyDeleteI'm kinda new to playdates, but the sharing thing is more difficult when you are at a person's house. I find that the kids are much more territorial. I saw that Lisa Nolan had a good idea about this. I wouldn't be able to find the post to put a link here, but the gist of it was that you have your child pick out toys to share and you talk about how they are going to be shared during the playdate ahead of time. I thought that was a great idea.
ReplyDeleteFantastic post! I actually read through word by word. No skimming. You sure do know how to keep the reader interested..
ReplyDeleteThank ya mama for sharing this with us at Eco-Kids Tuesday! Please come link up with us again today! http://likemamalikedaughter.blogspot.com/2013/02/fairy-finders-eco-kids-tuesday.html
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